Of course we all know that we are living in a very turbulent period of breakdown not just in our Society but globally as well. Presidents and their respective representatives are scrambling to protect and defend their policies either by denying allegations of misdoing or by going on the attack with their critics. Breakdowns are occurring at just about every level of all societies including financial, ethical, moral, foreclosures on homes and many other institutions that we once held as being sacred. Gays want equal rights, those opposed to abortion are literally killing those who perform them and a sense of fear grips most of us who are still willing to expose ourselves to the nightly newscasts.
It is very difficult to remain calm during these times. The conditions that prevail as described above leave little room for a sense of security and wholesomeness. Instead, there are two main elements that tend to prevail within this atmosphere: paranoia and prejudice. The paranoia is understandable since the “bad news” just keeps on coming without any sense of a respite allowing us to catch our breaths. We’re being hammered with new and alarming news and usually the news is repeated many times over so that it can become imbedded into our minds while interrupting our sleep as well as our inability to focus easily on our daily routines. Who wouldn’t become suspicious or paranoid about not “if” but “when” the other shoe will drop? There are those of us who hide our sense of upset and suspiciousness very well beneath a veneer of wishing you “have a good day” or “I’m great, how are you?” But even for those who are so successful at doing so, the price is perhaps paid in a less than obvious manner in their lives like marital or parent-child issues, problems with authority or “flying off the handle” easily.
Then, there is the prejudice that tends to prevail within this atmosphere. Who can we trust and who can be trusted? Many of us are quick to say “no one” in their blanket-like condemnation of those in public office or those who in some way or another are involved as administrators of faulty programs. The process is akin to the “jokes” about shooting all attorneys or drowning them. A sense of justification permeates this attitude which is so easy to adopt as a defense against all of the “bad news” that surrounds us. So what’s the problem, then?
The problem is that it is too easy to fall into these traps and the harm that is caused can become irreparable. How do I know this to be a fact? Well, just take a look at how well the pharmaceutical industry is doing as their financial records belie the breakdowns that encompass our lives. Listen to the ads on TV and in the newspapers about depression, sleeplessness, loss of confidence, treatments for drug addictions including pain medications and obesity. The media is resplendent with the urging that listeners make themselves feel better by “popping a pill.” Are these cures or symptoms of the atmosphere that I’ve attempted to describe? It seems to me that they are the natural outcomes of our paranoia and prejudice and they are spreading all too easily and efficiently throughout our Society. However, they all seem to mask what the real problems are … namely our deep fears born out of a sense of a loss of control that we are loathe admitting and facing “head on.” It’s just easier to get into a negative, accusatory and self-justifying mode … or is it? Where will it all end? Will there be any sense of vindication that will come from these attitudes? I seriously doubt it.
Rising above this conundrum will take some work. Finding positives in life may be difficult but they are there. We need to spend less time being negative and instead looking for those positives. We then need to put those in the forefront of our minds while pushing the negativity toward the back. We need to search out those who are “honestly” positive about life and not just giving lip service. We need to “separate the wheat from the chaff” instead of condemning everything and everyone and make sure that our criticisms are put into the proper perspective. I am not advocating that we “bury our head in the sand” but rather that we remove our heads from that position in order to see what is really going on vs. what we think is going on. Yes, we need to fight and eliminate those people, elements and practices that tend to be creating problems but our selection needs to be based in reality … not panic! That is a valid way of regaining control both personally and as a Society as a whole.
Both as a consultant and author, Charles Bonasera’s story-telling have motivated people to change patterns and resolve problems in their lives. All of his books contain valuable, practical lessons that people can easily apply to bettering and managing their lifestyles. He has also written a myriad of articles which can be found on his website at www.charlesmbonasera.com.