Although we may not realize it, there’s something called the “carryover effect” that can have a good deal to do with your golf game. Many, if not most, people use golf as a getaway from the daily rigors and pressures of life so that can wrap their minds around a game that demands all of our intention and concentration, relax and enjoy. However, what some people experience, instead of a “refresher” experience, is that they become more frustrated and upset as they play the game because their usual abilities aren’t coming through. Instead, they’re having more problems on the golf course than they were experiencing in their lifestyles ending up with their feeling worse than they did before they started.
A spat with your wife, a confrontation with your adolescent or a problem at work with your boss, manager or colleague could be responsible for the problem. A key to dealing with such issues is to clear your mind of all that clutter in order to be able to relax and play your game. Try closing your eyes for a few moments before you start and imagine seeing a cluttered black/white board filled with indistinguishable writing all over it. Taking your time, start to erase the board clean and then wash it clean to your fullest satisfaction. This little exercise has helped a number of people to get back into their game and away from the problems that they may encounter in their lives.
Apart from golf, the same issue can affect and disrupt your day-to-day routines as well. People have a tendency to carry around a good deal of excess baggage that gets in the way of their functioning. This is part of the human condition. However, if we really stop and think about it, all of the worrying and fretting over what’s happening in our lives doesn’t really change a thing, In addition, our attitudes and behaviors may take on a negative tone which, in turn, affects whatever it is that we’re into resulting in just another thing for us to be concerned about.
Realizing this and using the same method that you might use for your golf game can help. The real secret to this whole changing episode is that we understand that our minds belong to us ~ not to the problematic situations in which we may have engaged. Once we come to that conclusion both intellectually as well as emotionally (and only then) can we begin to take greater control over our minds and lives. This is important because much of the time, if we’ve become accustomed to carrying a lot of our problems around in our heads, we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. It becomes second nature. And so, the more aware we can be of the presence of those thoughts and feelings, the more we can do something about them so that our journey through life can become more to our liking instead of just trekking through one problem after another.
(19 October 2011)
Both as a consultant and author, Charles Bonasera’s story-telling have motivated people to change patterns and resolve problems in their lives. All of his books contain valuable, practical lessons that people can easily apply to bettering and managing their lifestyles. He has also written a myriad of articles which can be found on his website at www.charlesmbonasera.com.