When I was a young teenager, I was a natural leader of our group of girls who had all become friends. During our first year in High School, our group was split up over two different lunch periods with half of us going to the first lunch and half going to the second lunch. The group of girls who had a different lunch then my own had found a new hero. They talked about her constantly. She was smart, funny, exciting, enthusiastic, cheerful, clever, and extremely extroverted. They sang her praises constantly and being a very insecure teenage girl, I was a nervous wreck that they would love her more then me and would no longer look up to me as their leader. I was becoming more and more insecure that she would kick me off of my pedestal and take all of my friends away from me.
One day, as I stood at my locker swapping out my books for the next round of classes, someone walked up to me with a twinkle in their eye and a sly twisted smile on her face. She handed me a small neat green envelope and just stood there not saying a word. I looked at the envelope and then back up at her, “Who are you and what is this?” She laughed as she introduced herself and told me it was an invitation to her upcoming birthday party. This was the new girl everyone had been talking about. She explained to me with complete logic that everyone who was anyone knew that no slumber party would be any fun if I wasn’t there. She told me very matter of factly how important it was that I attend her birthday party because everyone had said so. She immediately made it very clear that she knew all about me and my pedestal and that I was to remain there. She had come to pay homage to me as the leader and to have my sacred blessing cast upon her birthday party. Didn’t I want to allow her to worship me the way that everyone else did? In that brief introduction, she charmed and manipulated me so that I had to like her, trust her, and see her brilliant mind at work all in just a handful of well chosen words. Everything she said in that moment was charming, funny, logical, magnetically appealing, and somehow I got the sense that we were sharing a secret joke just between the two of us. We were instantly wonderful friends.
She is a Sagittarius and in that moment portrayed the best traits of a Sagittarius child. They are very intelligent. They like to know how things work and why they work. They can analyze the inner workings of just about everything. They are always friendly and bright. They are the sign of the eternal optimist. She was so smart that she knew logically how to handle me like Playdoh in her hand while all the while making me feel special and important. Throughout many of the dramas and broken hearts of my youth, she was there to teach me how to laugh in the face of depression and to find ways to outsmart my own insecurities.
The main complaint people have about Sagittarius is their sometimes cruel words and they sometimes have problems with staying in a one-on-one committed relationship. The thing with Sagittarius is that they hate lies and superficial fake behaviors. That is part of why their comments can be so cutting and cruel at times. Teach your Sagittarius child why it hurts people to have the cruel truth thrown in their face. It is not that Sagittarius is wrong when they make an observation about someone. They are usually correct. It is the harsh public presentation of that observation that is so difficult to handle. Teach them how to tactfully speak their truth. Show them that there is a time and a place for their comments.
Deep down, they are freedom lovers. Teach them about fidelity and long-term commitment. They may or may not require it in their own life, but if educated about how others view it and that many folks actually need a one-on-one life partner, then they will be very careful not to hurt anyone. They love everyone and really do not mean to hurt people.
When raising a Sagittarius child, you must remember that they are students of life. They rule the house of philosophy, long journeys, publishing, spiritual quests, universities, and communicating higher ideals. Sagittarius children get bored easily and will hate being bound by too much routine. They need to laugh and play. For them soaking up information about the workings of life is a form of play. They are like the wandering minstrel who travels throughout the world gathering information and stories of other people and cultures. They make wonderful teachers because they love to share the wisdoms they gain during their independent study.
(Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge)
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