When we think of prosperity and of creating abundance, it’s easy enough to see how working at a job that we love helps us to earn more money then if we worked at a job we hated. We can also see that if we add plenty of love and warm-fuzzies towards how we treat our coworkers, bosses, employees, and customers, then it makes sense that people will like doing business with us and we’ll again earn more money. We can understand how putting our love into the product or service that we sell makes for a superior product or service and therefore raises the perceived value of that product or service. Here’s the hard part… it holds true in our personal relationships too.
How many women complain that their husbands don’t spend enough time with them? The wife complains that her husband doesn’t appear to really care about her. She thinks there is a lack of deep emotional connection between the two of them. “You don’t say that you love me! Therefore you must not love me!” He quickly points out that her argument that his lack of flowers and romantic words doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love her. After all, he works hard to earn enough money so that she can live in the house they share and so that she can choose to work or shop or raise kids or whatever it is she does with her time. She says that she appreciates the money, but it’s not the same as love. It all can be condensed down to this… she doesn’t see money as a symbol of love the way that he does. So many men feel that all of their long hours working to support their families is disregarded and they’re bitched at for not spending enough quality time with her and the kids.
Time is money. That makes sense. Bosses hire employees for their time on the job. Most people get paid by the hour or a monthly salary. How much they get paid is determined by their expertise and the quality of work they perform, but ultimately the boss is paying you to do what he does not have the time to do himself.
Love is time. When you love someone, you naturally want to spend quality time with them. You miss them when they’re gone too long. Go to any retirement home or a home for abused children. The most important thing to these people is the personal time that you give them. Studies have shown that teenagers who spend a lot of quality time with their families are far less likely to experiment with drugs and alcohol. When you volunteer your time to a charity, a school, or a political campaign, it’s because you love what it stands for.
Time is a non-renewable resource. We have a set number of hours each day that we can experience life. We can fritter it away laying out in the yard on a sunny day doing nothing much or we can organize the heck out of it making sure we live every single moment to the fullest. Sometimes we find out in advanced that we’re sick and have x number of days, weeks, months left to live. Usually, we have no idea how many days we have left.
So, when we give the boss our time in order to earn money for those that we love, then we are in a way giving the loved one our time. The husband could decide that he’d rather sit around watching TV all day or he’d rather go fishing, but instead he goes to work everyday so that his wife can have a nice house and nice things to put in it. He has given her his fishing time and his TV watching time. Yeah, he still needs to spend some time talking and connecting on an emotional level because all money and no romance is very lonely. However, she needs to see that he has in a round-about way given her his time and energy. He really is trying to give her a gift of his heart.
To illustrate the point even further, we love professional athletes, musicians, actors, and other entertainers so much that we’ll pay a fortune to see them perform. Those highly paid athletes are making that kind of money because we love them! If we didn’t love them, then they wouldn’t get the ticket sales. It wouldn’t matter how well they threw the ball if nobody wanted to watch them do it. Famous celebrities are rich because they have a lot of people who love their work.
This is not to say that it’s okay to give money in lieu of love, but rather that for many men, this is their greatest symbolic gesture. Remember too, they are hunters at heart. The caveman had to bring in the dinner or his loved ones would perish. They give money like women give hugs and kisses to babies. Look at the single mom who cannot spend time with her children because she’s always working to financially support them. It’s not because she doesn’t love them. Men need to remember too, that ONLY giving money as a symbol of their love is like a woman ONLY cooking and cleaning as a symbol of her love. Both are huge gifts of the heart, but they are certainly not the only gifts that are needed for a strong bond.
Money does equal love, but there are many additional forms of love to share. Women hate to feel like they’re just a paid housekeeper, cook, and chauffeur in a relationship. Men hate to feel like they’re just a life support system for a wallet. Money can’t buy love and love alone won’t create money, but the two are able to be converted back and forth into each other. The one can equate to the other. Love can make you prosperous, and sometimes money means ‘I love you.
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow’s Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. She became a writer in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, astrology, personal growth, motivation, soulmates, and parenting. Her books and articles have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. After years of high heels and business clothes, she is currently enjoying working from home in her pajamas. To read more of her articles, sign up to receive her free weekly newsletter, and get free previews of her books go to http://www.TomorrowsEdge.net