Give It a Rest


Have you ever noticed that sometimes you just can’t seem to turn your mind off? It can happen just when you’re about to fall asleep and despite the fact that your dead tired, you can’t doze off. It can happen when you have a serious, profound decision to make and you just keep going over the points that you want to make sure are covered ad infinitum, ad nauseam (otherwise known as obsessive thinking pattern) but you’re still afraid that you might have left something out. It can happen when you’re making love deterring you from achieving a successful climax because you’re thinking about work or some problem that one of your children might be experiencing. All of these examples and many more present a conundrum for individuals that can become an overpowering and negative influence in their lives. They just can’t give their minds the rest that it needs.

Let me first discuss the more severe symptoms associated with a psychiatric diagnosis called Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. This diagnosis not only has to do with the function of the mind that tends to repeat whatever it is that is prominent in a person’s mind but it also can, and usually does, affect their behavioral pattern as well. An example might be having to check the stove several times to make sure that it is turned off or whether the door is safely locked numerous times as well. This disorder is commonly associated with a good deal of guilt that the person may be experiencing whether that guilt is rationally based or not. Treatment for this disorder may require medication administered by a psychiatrist as well as on-going psychotherapy with a licensed mental health professional. Oftentimes, primary care physicians or other specialty medical personnel will prescribe medication but it may not be directly geared toward the disorder. For example, they may prescribe anti-anxiety medication which may not affect the symptoms. When medication is administered by a psychiatrist, the patient is usually followed on a regular basis in order to determine whether the meds need to be altered or changed altogether.

Most people, though, suffer from minor symptoms like the ones described in the opening paragraph. This sort of thinking can be changed with some effort on the part of the individual to relax the workings of the mind and thought processes. Some of the methods that might be used are the following:

Relaxation Techniques which allow a person to relax both his or her mind and body through a series of steps aimed at relaxing them. There are many variations of these steps that different mental health personnel may use.

Hypnosis:This is most intensive relaxation technique is hypnosis which is nothing more than a deepened form of relaxation that enables the unconscious mind to take over and remedy what cannot be accomplished only using the conscious mind. This may be accomplished by seeing a certified hypnotherapist who can perform the hypnosis or teach the individual how to use self-hypnosis without the need of a professional’s presence.

Yoga Exercises: This is a series of specific exercises aimed at relaxation both the body and mind. There are several books available that describe the process as well as a number of practitioners that teach yoga either to individuals or in a group setting.

Positive Affirmation: This consists in a series of positive statements aimed at improving our self-image in order to lead a more positive and meaningful lifestyle. Many people practice these many times during the course of their day and may say things to themselves such as “I am a good person with achievable goals” or “I am unique since there never has been nor will there ever again be anyone on this earth exactly like me.”

Both as a consultant and author, Charles Bonasera’s story-telling have motivated people to change patterns and resolve problems in their lives. All of his books contain valuable, practical lessons that people can easily apply to bettering and managing their lifestyles. He has also written a myriad of articles which can be found on his website at

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